letting down my guard and writing what i want to write

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One of the problems I have with blogging is that I can be indecisive about what my purpose is. Why do I have a blog? Is it worth the time I put into it? I try to be selective about how I spend my time. The older I get the less I have of it left and I want to make wise choices. There aren’t a lot of “have-to’s” in my vocabulary- I’m aware of the difference between what I must do and what I want to do.

I’m sure I’m not the only one that struggles with this aspect of blogging. In the time that I’ve been doing it consistently and making the effort to find a blogging community, I’ve seen lots of blogs come and go. For me, the biggest issue is that I lose focus. I tire of my own voice, I wonder if there is anything new left to say. I want to write for myself, yet I’m willing to put it out there. And having readers changes everything- it’s not really a journal any more. I’m conscious of what I say, careful to not reveal too much, aware of the huge potential for over-sharing and general ennui with the mundane details of someone else’s life or the same topics discussed over and over again.

For a personal, general blog like mine, I feel like I have two options for what I write. One is to use it like a journal, and not fuss too much about whether or not it is interesting to anyone else. This was my original purpose for blogging, when I first started one back in 2008. I just wanted to write, I wanted a place to make sense of my life, a way to capture the ephemera of motherhood.

But over time I started to feel like that wasn’t enough, that I should be more disciplined, have something substantial to say. That my blog posts should be more like articles or essays, with a clear focus. And so sometimes I write that sort of post. But writing a serious post is neither simple nor easy. Professional writers get paid for a reason- it’s hard to write well! It’s work like any other kind of work, and at some point the effort it takes goes beyond the hobby stage. I’m a practical person- I can see that these carefully crafted articles that get buried in my personal blog with a tiny readership might not be the best use of my time.

It’s not that I think the time is wasted exactly, but I have to consider what makes me happy. Because that’s what a hobby is all about. It’s not about proving something or pleasing other people. Writing for pleasure is very different from writing for pay (or some type of acknowledgment or accolades that will hopefully turn into pay). When writing is part therapy and part hobby, there’s no pressure, no need to compete or worry about being good enough. It truly is enough just to do it, to sit down at the keyboard and create. It’s the process, not the product.

So for now, I’m going to stay true to my original purpose in blogging and just write. Without worrying about whether or not I have anything substantial to say, or what people might be looking for. The truth is, I’m all over the place. I don’t want a niche blog, I don’t want to be limited in what I can write about. If I’m not trying to get paid for my efforts, then I should feel free to do exactly what I want. That’s the beauty of it.

I’m going to experiment with this idea and see where it takes me- just sit down and write. I’m not going to wait for inspiration and I’m not going to worry about what anyone reading might think. I’ve been serious and self-conscious for far too long, and I’m getting a little tired of living that way. I was always such an old soul- getting older has felt like coming into myself, my physical age reflecting my inner self. But there is a part of me that longs to break free from the weight of my own expectations, the burden of doing the right thing, and I think my blog is a good place to start.

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524 thoughts on “letting down my guard and writing what i want to write

  1. I understand what you mean. I started blogging for part therapy and part hobby and then at some point when there were a few more readers, it was like, wait, am I supposed to write for these people now? It’s nice to have readers, but ultimately, I just have to fall where you have fallen, writing for myself. For the pure joy of it. If I want to try harder on a post, I will. If I just want to type it out and hit publish right away, I will. I can’t over analyze it right now. You have to do what brings you the most joy. But for what it’s worth, I always enjoy your posts.

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    • It’s a weird thing- most bloggers want readers (otherwise we’d just keep a private journal or only share our blog with friends and family) but then getting readers can inhibit our writing. I’m just trying to get back to that place I was at originally when I started blogging- it was so simple then. I didn’t try too hard, and I like that feeling.
      Thank you for the compliment- I feel the same way about your posts πŸ™‚

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      • Hello namesake!
        Your post resonates with what I am going through. I started out informal but when I saw I was gaining more readers, I unconsciously began writing more serious posts. I think It’s okay to alternate once in a while. But this is really lovely. Thanks for the post!

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      • I’ve got to say thank you for this post! When i first started last year it was for me…thing happened and i deleted my account for a couple months, When i started again all i wanted was readers and when i would go days with out getting any i got frustrated and spent so much time trying to think of things to write that i didn’t care much about just to lure people in to reading/following.
        this is my blog, i should write what i want and not just what i think other people want to read.:)

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    • I needed to read this. I just started my own blog (again. The one I did in year 10 does not count *shudders*) and it’s so easy to fall into the trap of being pressured to write for others. But this point, the one of writing for ourselves, that’s a true encouragement. Thanks for that πŸ™‚

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      • You’re welcome πŸ™‚ Most of us don’t need any more pressure in our lives. I try to be mindful about all of my choices and blogging is no exception.

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  2. Pete said something along the lines (when I was concerned about my writing and others judgement) that if others don’t like it, they are not your audience. People who are will stay and read. That helped somehow.

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  3. Personally I enjoy the authentic blogs the most. I think I feel more connected when I read others who speak (write) with their true voice. And I find I enjoy my own writing so much more when I write for myself and not for the readers.

    It takes courage to be ourselves – hugs to you!

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    • I agree with you about liking authentic blogs- I don’t even bother with ones that are too slick, advertising oriented, etc. My purpose in reading blogs is to find kindred spirits, to get a glimpse into someone else’s life. But there are many different types of blogs now and it can be a little overwhelming trying to stay true to a more simple purpose.
      I’ve found that blogging has required a lot of courage- putting myself out there hasn’t been easy. I actually haven’t lost followers for a while but I remember early on when I would lose one or two- I knew that it shouldn’t matter but it was hard to not take it personally, to not worry about why they didn’t like my blog. I think it’s so wired in us to care what people think, to be afraid of failure.

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      • “I think it’s so wired in us to care what people think, to be afraid of failure.” That’s true if you are a sensitive individual, although I have met many who are anything but.

        I am trying to avoid “failure” in my life – I have decided to think in terms of experimenting – as in “Well, that didn’t work out the way I had hoped, let me try something else..” It takes some of the fear away.

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  4. Wow, it appears like our challenges are quite in sync with one another πŸ˜‰ I have to admit that I have gone through a cycle with my writing. Originally, I wrote just for myself. As you so perfectly stated, it was to make some sense of the world around me. There are so many thoughts going through my head at one time, that the important ones tend to slip through my fingers.

    Then came the readership, where I had people somewhat interested in what I had to offer. And things changed. My perspective shifted from what was important to me over to what was interesting to others. That’s the great thing about writing. It is its own therapy πŸ˜‰ Ever since I composed my blog entry “Share your story”, my focus has shifted back to what was important to me, to a true self-expression that lights a fire inside. If it lights the fire inside others, I am touched and certainly feel validated in expressing my true feelings. But, in the end, this writing thing is for me and my personal growth. And I hope a legacy of sorts to share with my son when he gets a little older πŸ˜‰

    This is why I will probably never write a book. Or, if I ever do, it will be self-published. I would never be able to stray from my voice, the message I want to share, not a message that some editor would feel is more suitable for a niche of readers. Writing for me is a hobby, it’s therapy, it’s a passion, it’s an outlet, it’s really my ultimate form of self-expression. You do with it what makes you happy and brings you joy. You seem to have a really good outlook on how you can have it do the same for you.

    Very inspiring and well composed article. Thank you for sharing and best wishes for continued personal success with all endeavors you choose to pursue πŸ™‚

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    • For me, the problem with writing essay-type posts is that they just take too long, and I end up feeling like I’ve wasted my time since I’m not trying to submit an actual article. I can’t really justify the time and energy, as a hobbyist writer.

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  5. I struggle with the same uncertainties. I find my voice drifting depending on what I’ve been reading lately. I started blogging without a plan and the inertia just took over. Maybe it’s that very uncertainty that keeps readers coming back for more: the variety and the unpredictability. I like to tell myself that anyway πŸ™‚

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    • Yes, but you’re funny. Funny writing is it’s own thing- anything can be funny (look at Seinfeld). I’m not a funny writer, so it’s more difficult to decide what is a worthy subject and what isn’t πŸ™‚

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  6. I’ve watched my blog basically become my personal journal. There’s nothing I write in private, it’s all for others to read. That’s what’s so great about blogging when others can relate and they really relate to who you are and what you’re going through.

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    • I don’t keep a private journal any more either, and I haven’t for years. But when I was younger it was a big part of my life. Over time I realized I wasn’t writing at all, and that is when blogging became appealing. And yes, I struggle with the fine line between public and private.

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    • Thank you. I’ve actually been writing in one form or another for quite a few years now, and the one compliment I tend to get is that my “voice” is genuine, sincere. So I guess I’m glad to be perceived that way πŸ™‚

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  7. You mention some key points in blogging. To me this is a great way to reach others in the community that like art and color. It is interesting that others share that as well.

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  8. Miriam, it sounds like your lack of focus is your focus. That’s exactly what I am trying to wrap myself around. I have a variety of experience in many aspects of life. Part of me wants to share these experiences yet, another part is afraid to let it go and press “publish.” Keep doing what makes you happy.

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    • I’ve been quite resistant to having a niche- I didn’t want to just be a homeschooling blogger or a mommy blogger. Maybe it’s because of where I’m at in life- my age, having grown children, rediscovering who I am as a person, not just a wife and mother. I don’t want any one thing to define me, and I want to write freely without feeling obligated to my readers. Nothing wrong with having a niche blog, it just feels too limiting to me. And I’m really proud of the fact that I have readers who don’t even have kids. let alone homeschool.

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  9. Thank you for this reaffirmation. I stopped blogging because I didn’t want to feel pressured on what to write. Minutes after creating a new account, I saw your post, and it reminded me of why I started it in the first place. Thanks again. πŸ™‚

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    • I think that if you want to write, you won’t be content until you do. And it helps to have readers, even if it’s only a few. We all have something we’re passionate about, something that makes us feel alive. For me, writing is one of those things, and I feel more whole since I became disciplined about doing it.

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  10. I so totally get what you’re saying! Parts of it was to hear my self. So you’ll be my inspiration and I’ll just write πŸ™‚

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  11. It’s freshly pressed. That suggests to me that there’s something very strong in what you write. Perhaps blogging is really only writing. Perhaps blogging is simple or should be simple.

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  12. This was exactly my problem.. I started the blog as having the purpose of an online diary. That feeling of having something to share with world and possibly relate to some people. I love writing and own diaries for days. But when I sit down and feel the need to write, I have nothing to say. Every thought is blocked by what people may say or think. Who would be interested in what I have to say.

    I read your post and find that it is exactly my thoughts.Yet I still am not sure what I want to present to the world in showing who I am- As my writing should be a reflection of who I am or what I feel. But I will try and move past that and create posts for me, like you are. I’d like to see where this may lead.

    Thank you:)

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    • This is hard for me because I am not a playful, light-hearted person. But I’m working on it, not taking myself and everything else so seriously.

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  13. I am new to blogging and have recently encountered that feeling of “oh man, people are actually reading this! now what?” Ironically, it’s the subject of my post yesterday! It’s good to know this is a common problem that other bloggers struggle with and that I’m not alone. At the end of the day, connecting with one another is what writing is all about, I think. And as others have commented, authentic from-the-heart posts tend to resonate better. Kudos to you for breaking free of expectations and just writing for the sheer love of the words flying from your fingertips.

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    • I just read your post, and I agree completely with everything you say. I’ve been surprised by how much I enjoy the community aspect of blogging- initially I thought it was just a way to encourage myself to write. It took me a while to understand that my friends and family weren’t going to be my real blog readers, that I needed to seek out like-minded people. Once I did, blogging really became fun.

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  14. I know what you mean. My blogging tends to be on and off because I prefer when people are commenting on what I have to say. I’ve never been good at just venting for the love of it, lol, I strongly need to be heard. But you have a good idea. I think I will try to focus on just writing and not worrying too. πŸ™‚

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    • It’s hard to keep writing if no one seems to be paying attention! I totally relate, even though I’d like to say it doesn’t matter. We all want to be heard, I think.

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  15. I started out blogging for the same reasons, it was therapy for me! It felt good to write about whatever, and be random without care. Now, I have kind of transitioned…I still write about life’s experiences, but focus a little bit now on hopefully helping others find their own freedom and happiness πŸ™‚

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  16. Ah, the irony! You write for you and then you get Freshly Pressed! Now a weekend of whirlwind comments. (Congrats, by the way.) I love this idea of writing for yourself. I’ve been blogging to try to capture that early motherhood thing, for both myself and my children, but it’s also helped me reflect on my relationship with my family and my own mother. It’s amazing how one thing leads to the next. And so on and so on.
    I can’t help but wonder if the FP is going to throw a monkey wrench in the works? But I’m hoping you keep your lovely voice just as it is. Blog on, brave Mama.

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    • Yes, the irony is a little overwhelming. My husband just keeps scratching his head… “but I don’t get it, this isn’t even one of your better posts…”.
      Oh well, I’ll take what I can get πŸ™‚ And yes, I plan to write exactly what I want to write- I think that no matter what happens now, it can’t be any worse than the two years I’ve spent blogging in obscurity πŸ™‚

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  17. Hey. I’ve just started my first ever blog, and yours is the first post I’ve read.

    And I’m so glad I did, because I struggle with some of the same issues, and it lends so much perspective to know that others feel as you do.

    Write what you want. Do it because you love it. Because you can. Because it gives you joy.

    Write about anything, everything, nothing at all.

    You put your voice out there just now.

    And you know what?

    I loved hearing it.

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    • I don’t know that you can write without thinking of your readers at all, but you can try to not let it affect your writing too much. I’ve had to learn the hard way that you will never be able to please everyone.

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  18. We share the same sentiment. I oftentimes feel bad that I appear to have neglected my blog altogether, hence just a couple of months ago, I sort of changed its look a bit to make it more refreshing. I mostly blog about my personal mundane life, and I don’t think people find that amusing, but it amazes me that every now and then, I get comments and likes from people when least expect it.

    Congratulations on being Freshly Pressed, by the way!

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    • I have to say, it’s the feedback that has kept me going. I don’t think I would have kept blogging if I hadn’t had a few readers. I also struggle with the time it takes to maintain a blog- finding the right balance between it and the rest of my life. I don’t want to spend more time writing about my life than actually living it!

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      • I don’t want to spend more time writing about my life than actually living it!

        Couldn’t have said any better, Miriam. I’m with you on this!

        P.S. Thank you for following; I realized I haven’t followed yours in the beginning!

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  19. I enjoyed your post, and I understand how you feel. I started blogging several years ago, and I stopped because I returned to school full time. Now, I am trying to reboot my blogging and I see the blogging world has literally exploded!! Just write what you wish to write. I agree those who do “write from the heart” produce the most compelling blogs.

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    • I admit I didn’t know much about blogging when I started- I had never read blogs. I thought it was all about journaling, that that was the whole point. I quickly became intimidated by all the slick marketing and computer-savvy bloggers who seemed to have a lot more time and expertise than I did. But I stuck to my original vision of what blogging was and now I’m glad I did πŸ™‚

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  20. I’m a novice in blogging. I still have hesitancy in writing all of my thoughts, since, I’m an introvert person. And like you, writing is my therapy. I just need to write especially if I’m at that moment of my highest emotional point. Usually, I get poetic or make art stuff. Before, I just keep these things to myself. But then, there came a time that the urge to voice out my thoughts really pushed me to do this, and also with the advice of a friend.
    If the community likes, or comment on my post, whether negative or positive, I just accept it, because everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
    After everything we have read, in the end, what counts is what we think or believed in.

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  21. This article was like you were reading my mind. I am more motivated than ever to just write what I want, and stop checking stats and chasing follows. I’ll start now. Whatever you do, don’t read or follow my blog. Wait, what did I just say? Now I’m just confused πŸ˜‰

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    • I suppose I’m trying to find the right balance between caring a little yet not caring too much. I don’t imagine I’d ever stop checking stats or noticing how many followers I have- of course it makes us feel good to have readers. But I also know that followers don’t mean much- I suspect most “followers” don’t actually read posts. I’ve only had a couple of faithful commenters.

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  22. for me I don’t care about how many followers I have or the stats, I just write as a daily discipline.I also set small goals weekly in learning photography,Webdesign, SEO and social media networking because writing is sales . Honestly for me I just write about what I love. Be relentless in developing confidence as a writer. “The honey badger don’t care..” Loved that Meme.. any likes or new followers for me is just an added bonus and get to meet some great people. I loved your post so keep doing what your doing.

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  23. Totally. I think the discipline of just writing every week creates a great space for creativity. Plus it helps to organize your thoughts throughout the week. Cool post. I love blogs like yours because it shows me that there are people thinking and feeling similarly.

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  24. Well seems like you just made a great post! Congrats! πŸ™‚
    If I can give you an advise then I will say that first you have to find that thing that you really wanted, what makes you happy.
    It seems -for what I read- that you are not really aware of what you want, you’re just hanging around. And hanging around, rambling like a tramp ship is good for a while but, in the long term, it’s frustrating.
    So take a decision and stick to it along the way, no matter what.
    Of course not all days are shiny.
    Improve your work, your art day by day, and -in the end- you will succeed on being happy, because you’ll fulfil your goal, that one that started with your 1st decision.
    This is not my mother language so I apologise in advance.
    Greetings!

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  25. Beautifully said and I totally hear you. I have started and stopped two different blogs for those exact words “I started getting tired of my writing voice”. Finally, I decided to write for me, explore new ways of writing, maintain my “from the heart” inspiration. It has only been a month but I must say, it feels so much more authentic and that is the only way I want to write. I am looking forward to following your journey. Refreshing, from the heart, little agenda, real voiced bloggers are just the kind of people I hope to keep in my circle and learn from. Thanks for sharing these thoughts. There is beautiful wisdom pouring out of your words.

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  26. Well said. I’m new to blogging, and honestly, it never even occurred to me that I might have readers, lol. I figured I’d get lost amongst the many other bloggers who actually had something more interesting to say. My blog is first and foremost for me; I started it as a result of an online challenge, and I wanted to create a way to encourage myself to stick with it, and I wanted a clear record of the accomplishment. I’m enjoying the readers now mostly because I get to visit them back, I had no idea what an interesting place the blogging world could be, :-). I look forward to “getting to know you” better!

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    • I’ve also been pleasantly surprised by how much I enjoy discovering other blogs. Being a reader is as much fun to me as being a writer- of course I don’t think you can be one without the other πŸ™‚

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  27. I’m going to take this sage advice! Having had all of the same feelings you’ve put a voice to here in this wonderful post, I think I’ll stop worrying about what I write and ‘just write’. Congrats on being Freshly Pressed.

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  28. I’m so glad you’re going to continue writing–writing for the sake of your own heart, yet still letting us listen in as you process life. You are a blessing!

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  29. This is a nice piece. Made me think for why I started blogging. I’m a newbie, 5 days to be exact. You’ve given me things to think about. I literally just started looking at other people’s site and just happen to comes across yours. I’m glad I did. Very insightful.

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    • It can be overwhelming- there are so many blogs out there. You just have to do what makes you happy, and don’t give up too easily.

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    • Ha! This pen is my husband’s (I actually don’t like writing with it). I didn’t have an image for this post so we quickly took a picture.

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  30. I totally can relate…it’s my therapy and if you don’t find therapy in my blog..That’s cool too…so hats off to you miriam

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  31. I appreciate the honest and simple way you have written this. I guess there is pros and cons to my blog not being very active by others. Don’t push yourself into a corner where you feel your blog has to be one way or another. Let your blog be you.

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    • I’m trying… but the difficult thing is accepting that we won’t be liked by everyone. I’ve found that being true to myself isn’t always easy.

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    • I actually do have a few topics that I focus on in my writing, it’s just that I want to be free to bounce around between them, and also write whatever kind of post I want without worrying too much about a formula. And yes, life is full of surprises.

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    • But expressing ourselves can be frightening too, it’s taking a risk that someone might not like what we have to say. This is what I’ve had to get over, not just with blogging but with life.

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  32. Great post! I think you have expressed how a lot of bloggers feel and you did it with style and honesty. Thank you for giving me something to think about..and “just write”. I’m not a scholar or an expert on anything except my own self and that is questionable! πŸ™‚ thanks again!

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    • What a lovely compliment! Thank you. I do try to be honest in all aspects of my life- it is something that is important to me.

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  33. Good start! If you like a starting point, you may want to read articles of all kinds. Whether it be current events, relationships, friendships, etc. They will surely get your creative juices flowing πŸ™‚ Happy blogging!

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    • I find that if I wait for inspiration I would rarely write. A blank page (computer screen) is a scary thing… but sometimes I have to make myself do it. Kind of like exercise that way…

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  34. Hiya
    I’ve just found your blog and this post caught my attention.
    I can relate to what you are saying as I’ve blogged for what feels like forever and somehow my original blog became focused on the mom/nanna/home side to my life so I ended up renaming it. I’ve just started another blog (my wordpress one) for me…. I’ve figured there has to be a place that is single to my enjoyment of blogging that I can open up, with limits yet focussed enough to benefit the purpose of blogging.
    I’d say go with your gut instinct with your blog, loyal readers will enjoy it πŸ™‚
    Debs

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    • I’ve thought about having more than one blog, but I know I don’t have the time or energy for that. And part of my purpose in blogging is “personal growth”, so i need to reflect that in my writing. I don’t want to be a “how-to” blogger. Nothing wrong with that, but it’s not why I’m writing.

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  35. I love that you want to write for you. Writing is my release from stress, though I do have a personal journal because there are things I don’t want to even put online for the fact that I’m paranoid about others reading about my life. I like to put my creative writing on here, and personally, I don’t have a lot of readers, but I mean…it’s my blog. So if others want to read it, okay. If not…okay. πŸ™‚ Keep doing what you do. Readers don’t make a difference because chances are, they wish they had stayed true to themselves like you are.

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    • I’ve struggled a lot with what is okay to reveal and what isn’t. I knew from the beginning that if I had a blog it would have to be personal, it’s just the way I am. Privacy is a concern, for sure, but I’ve also made a conscious choice to live life without too much fear over what might happen.

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    • I’ve had that feeling of writing and no one listening many times. I don’t particularly like it- and I’m okay with admitting that. But I do prefer quality over quantity- a few good readers are better than a lot of followers who don’t really care.

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    • Thank you. I don’t know that writing is an escape for me- reading is for sure. Writing is rewarding but it definitely feels like work to me.

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    • It’s not easy to take that advice if you’re a people-pleaser though πŸ™‚ I’ve spent so much of my life trying to do what others wanted, taking care of the needs of others… blogging has helped me learn to put myself first for once.

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    • I’m not sure I could write any other way πŸ™‚ And it seems like a lot of people share the sentiment about it being a good thing!

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      • Definitely. There is nothing better than reading some ones words straight from their head and heart πŸ™‚ I love your writing I’ve started following you so i’m looking forward to some more good reads.

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  36. I’m glad you are listening to you own voice! It takes courage to write at all, and to write honestly from the heart is the bravest of all. Good on you! (The Brits say this and I just adore it.) I can’t wait to see what happens next for you πŸ™‚

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  37. Brilliant. Im always concerned about how much I share. We all have our secrets. Though besides a few clear black marks I too have decided that I find the most joy when I write what is on my mind. Sometimes its serious, other times not so much.

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    • I’m concerned too. I’ve thought about it plenty, and I can see myself reaching a point where I just worry about it too much and move on to another way of expressing myself. It does bring me joy so for now it feels worth it.

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  38. very well said! those doubts/fears kept me from starting a blog for a while but I’m so happy that I finally did and every time I catch myself seconding guessing whether or not to write about something I keep reminding myself it doesn’t matter what anyone else things if it’s something that makes me happy!

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    • I’ve had to give myself that same speech many times. I second guess myself like crazy. And moving ahead, writing and hitting publish, has been a great thing for me.

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  39. People, I can totally relate! I hope you don’t mind me putting a link of my own post here, because I’ve written exactly similar sentiments: http://nadya.wordpress.com
    Thanks for speaking out! In this comment section, I could see a list and browse through other “authentic” (i like the word a lot) bloggers that I’ve been searching for as a community. Looking forward to connect with you all! Thanks again for unintentionally creating a pool of similar minds, keep writing :))

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    • Yes, I was thinking the same thing- how wonderful to see such a large group of people caring about the same things- honesty, authenticity, sincerity.

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  40. I do agree with you, Miriam! I wanted to start blogging to express what I am feeling inside, being a Virtual Assistant, I really don’t have any officemate to chat or just share my day. But when I start to think of the readers, I get nervous of what I say, grammar, thoughts and all. Sigh! Today, I opened my account because I “just” (my client says never use just because it’s not just a “just”, if you know what i mean) want to share about things that I do. Reading your post was meant to be for me. Thanks a lot for that comforting thought!

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    • You’re welcome. I don’t think the thought of potential readers is a bad thing- I think writing is like any other craft and it’s worth doing well. Thinking of readers may make us work harder than we would if we were writing in a private journal, make us more careful and thoughtful.

      For me, the challenge is finding the right balance between being careful and being too careful.

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  41. I’m currently asking myself the same kinds of questions. Why do I blog? Should I blog? What should I blog about? I’ve actually been pretty overwhelmed about it lately. Like you, I should write for myself, simply because I love writing and not think about it too much beyond that. You have definitely inspired me with this entry. πŸ™‚

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    • That’s awesome! I’m glad. I don’t really expect that writing this post is going to take away my doubts and uncertainties. I imagine I’ll still have times where I tire of the whole thing, but I’m hoping to just keep going and not worry too much about it.

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    • I’m touched! Now go see what others have to say- there are some wonderful blogs out there πŸ™‚ I wish I had more time to discover them.

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  42. This is so much like what I feel too, but I’ve never been able to put it down in words. Thank you! I just started my own blog, and I’m mostly doing it for myself, since writing is a way of just letting my feelings out, I dislike being inhibited by what others think of my writing, because I write what I feel like at that moment. And congratulations on being Freshly Pressed πŸ™‚

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    • Thanks! One thing I’ve never been lacking in is words… my poor husband. He likes it that I blog because it helps give me an outlet so I’m not quite so talkative with him. I also dislike feeling inhibited, and when I feel that way it makes writing seem like a waste of time. I try to remember how much I like it when others share freely- and then realize that I can apply that lack of judgement to myself.

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  43. Write for yourself. I started my blog as somewhere I can freely write what I want. College, university and work dictate so much what I can write now and I have too many friends and family expectations to write what I really think on facebook etc so the freedom of having a blog is lovely. Nobody I know in real life knows I have a blog so it would be nice to think some one reads my entries, but if they don’t it’s no biggy.

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    • I sometimes think how nice it would be to have an anonymous blog- it’s too late for that with mine and I’m okay with that, but I do have to consider that people will read me who know me in real life. As I got older though I decided to heck with it, I wasn’t going to waste energy caring what friends and family thought about who I really am. They can like me or not like me, and perhaps my blog is my way of reminding myself that it doesn’t matter.
      That being said, I am mindful of real people’s feelings and try not to write hurtful stuff. But that’s just part of the way I’m trying to live in general, it’s not limited to my blogging.

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  44. I see we have the same roots of the problem in common. I have seen blogger followers come and go. I think many of them give up or just get busy with other endeavors. I write my blog for me. If some one wants to read my rants and raves or my side bars so be it. But it satisfies me and once in a blue moon there is a comment which strokes my ego.

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  45. Just loved the post!

    What is it really that remains at the core of anything we undertake? Be it blogging or any other activity on which our livelihood does not depend. is it to keep up with the Joneses? Is it to look good or justified in some way? Is it because we get a sense of importance? Or is it some intrinsic passion we hold?

    Be whichever underlying commitment that may be there, things do change over time. And so do our priorities and the underlying commitments. So while we are rationally conditioned to continue doing something, the intrinsic energy within might have shifted elsewhere.

    Could this be what you are facing?

    Shakti

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    • This is very insightful. You’re right, it’s not just about blogging. It’s about doing things for the right reasons. And that can be a tricky thing to determine.

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  46. Amen sister. I so understand where you are coming from. It is very much a mind over matter thing. If we don’t mind what others thing of what we write, then what they think does not matter. But that is a tough road to hoe. Good for you for putting down in words but so many of us feel.

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    • It is tough, hence this post. I felt like I was at a crossroads, and I needed to decide which way I was going. Glad you can relate πŸ™‚

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  47. I really enjoyed reading this post. I’ve struggled with what to write on my blog to the point I’ve stopped writing posts. Maybe your words will help my words flow a bit more. Thank you for sharing.

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    • You’re welcome. You can always try just writing about your day, like you would for a journal. Try not to over-think it. Eventually you may find the words flowing more easily, and then see how you feel.

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  48. You spoke well of what a lot of people would like to do but don’t. How many times have you heard “I should write a book on that.” So then write one right? The journey of a thousand miles begins with one blog. Write on!

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    • I’m also trying to set a good example for my kids. As they get older my role diminishes, and I’ve had to take stock of my life and figure out what I’m doing that is just for me. Writing is that thing, something that I enjoy and makes me feel like I’m creating something tangible as opposed to all the other things I do.

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  49. As a new blogger, I had a title in mind for a number of years, and I’ve been posting with the focus on that title. Now your post has given me food for thought. For example: If I choose to stray from my original focus, does that mean I should start a second blog? I’m still at the stage (will I go through stages as a blogger?) where I don’t mind if I don’t get any followers, or if no one reads my posts. But then again, having someone comment on my posts just plain feels good. So your post has put me in a contemplative mood, and to me, that’s the beauty of reading other bloggers–they evoke some kind of emotion or thought or motivation which changes the reader in some small (or larger) way. Thanks for sharing!

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    • You’re welcome πŸ™‚ Contemplation is a good thing- I once had a blog called “The Contemplative Mom”. And I definitely went through stages with blogging, and I suppose that will continue. There has been a learning curve but that’s part of the fun of it- I like feeling like I took on a challenge and figured it out.
      As far as your title, only you can decide. I’ve changed titles and blogs a couple of times, and I think it’s a good thing sometimes. Remember that the whole point is to do what works for you πŸ˜‰

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  50. Miriam, I agree with you wholeheartedly on this! I used to write several blogs for different purposes one for poetry, and one for art processes, and one about my family life, back in 2007. Seemed silly to have different blogs. As I am restarting, I am like you now. I want to write what I feel like writing about and connect with people and learn more about them…all the while learning about myself. I agree with someone in a previous comment, just write from the heart. Write on…

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    • Perhaps the difference is whether the main point of a blog is a topic or our own personality. Not saying you can’t have both, but I can’t say that I read blogs to be educated about something. I read blogs to learn more about people.

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  51. Hi Miriam,
    I can completely relate to this same dilemma. When I was starting my blog (back in December, I’m still pretty new to the world of blogging), I wasn’t sure what to write about. I’m a freelance writer by profession, so the amount of knowledge and the topics that I write about can vary widely. Most of the time, I write what my clients request. I spend time researching, organizing and writing topics that may not be interesting to me personally. But the problem I faced was trying to decide what to write about in my personal blog.

    Even though I aspire to become a novelist, I ultimately decided that my blog would be all about me, my opinions and the topics I find interesting. Maybe I’ll write about personal finance on one day and then turn around and write about my family. Sometimes, I write about serious topics. Other times, its all about having fun and making jokes.

    We all have something to contribute, and that is a beautiful thing. A blog doesn’t need to focus on a niche topic to be interesting. I enjoy reading the authentic blogs. They showcase the unique, nitty-gritty aspects of everyday life. It’s so much more interesting than a perfectly written academic essay. (less time consuming as well)

    Congrats on Freshly Pressed and finalizing your decision to keep your blog authentic.

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    • Thank you! I like the fact that writing is just a hobby for me- I admire writers who get paid but it’s not necessarily something I aspire to. I want the freedom to write casually, and I was starting to feel like some of my posts were simply requiring more effort than they should, if I wasn’t willing to find a wider audience.

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  52. So it turns out that when you actually put something out there that is genuine, true to your heart and not written for an audience, it comes to us in the form of Freshly Pressed. πŸ™‚ And I think that is such a beautiful thing as it stands testimony to the fact that we all , at the end of the day, will read something that has helped somebody realise the true meaning of things (in your case blogging). I completely agree with you on the fact that writing is not easy and man, its anything but simple! The more we blog, the more we believe that its easier and the next piece will take less of your time, effort and energy. But its exactly the opposite! We are more conscious, worried and it takes so much longer to write, as you progress!

    Whatever you said, I absolutely agree with everything. Though I haven’t been blogging as long as you have, the last couple of weeks have made me question the purpose of my blog too. After reading this, trust me, I’m so much at peace with myself. Thank you so much for putting this up, it reassures me that I’m not the only one who goes through this. πŸ™‚

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    • Comments like this really warm my heart and make me smile. I just have this vision of a bunch of people sitting down and writing…. and writing…. no worries about why or if it’s good enough, only the sheer joy of words and making sense of our lives.
      Writing more seriously has definitely brought peace to my life, quieted my mind. I’m so glad I didn’t just say “oh, I used to write when I was young, but I don’t do it any more”.

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  53. It was this very fear of being judged and self-consciousness that kept me away from writing in my blog for nearly a year. It’s really hard to not think about the readers. I want my writing to be read and liked, more so since I want to be a journalist my profession. Finally, I grew so tired of the pressure that I just wrote. I posted yesterday after a long break and the response is heartening. I am very excited about the future! Good luck with your experiment! πŸ™‚

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  54. This relates to what I’ve been reflecting in my mind lately. It’s not just in blogging but also in expressing oneself. I recently realize that in my whole life I’ve been being too self’cautious that I care too much of what other peoole think. I don’t have the courage to have thoughts that the majority wouldn’t have. I don’t usually express what I think in my mind because I’m too scared as a 16 year-old teenager to be criticized by people, saying that my mind isn’t mature enough. But guess what? I do have a brain and either do I have IQ. I do think and reflect on myself as an individual before I make any (semi-final) conclusion. I really have to let it go and let myself do whatever I think is right. Thanks for your post!

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    • I guess not everyone is sensitive to what others think- some people truly don’t seem to care. But many of us do, and the challenge is not letting that stop you. Having a creative outlet and being honest will always be a positive thing, and it’s sad to think of people too frightened to even try.

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  55. I struggle with this as well. I started blogging because I really missed writing, but I also have to admit to the thrill when someone likes what I’ve written. I try to keep it light, short, but meaningful…at least to me. And hope others agree.

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    • It is a thrill to have someone like what you’ve written! Even better when they comment, and continue to come back and read! It’s an amazing feeling. As far as the type of post people write- light or heavy, short or long, well that’s one of those things that determines authenticity. It would feel false to me to try to be a light, funny blogger. That’s not who I am (although sometimes I wish I was!). And I really struggled with this, because it seems like most people want to be entertained. I also like to write long posts sometimes, although I like the discipline of trying to shorten them a bit.
      So yeah, I had to be true to myself and not be tempted to imitate anyone. It felt lonely at times.

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  56. I had the same thoughts a few years ago. I felt like I had lost focus on my blog that was started as a creative outlet while I was figuring out what to do after university to a chore that I felt I had to add to once a month. The way I kept going is to live like you’re not thinking about blogging that way I found things just popped into my head and I would find things to write about. May sound silly but for a blogger who just rambles like I do it works like a charm. I hope you find your motivation and keep writing because you have a great voice.

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    • Thank you. It’s interesting to think about- that we may write better when we’re not trying too hard. When I get through replying to comments on this post I guess I’ll have plenty of time to see how it goes πŸ™‚

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    • Yes, but I felt like I could still be guarded in my writing. Not necessarily feeling free to say what I wanted, worrying too much about how my words might be perceived.

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  57. I’ve stopped and started blogs for about 5 years now and for many of the same reasons you give here. Recently I decided that writing is simply a passion – a great outlet for me as a working, married mom. And so I committed myself to 365 days of blogging as an experiment. I’m closing in on day 40 and I couldn’t be happier! Putting yourself out there for the world to see – or just a handful of followers to see – is somehow liberating. And people tend to enjoy stuff that comes from the heart vs stuff that comes from research. Good luck!

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    • It is liberating. I don’t actually have many other hobbies- I’m not crafty or artistic. Writing is the only thing I do besides cooking that is creative- and food gets eaten so quickly… a blog doesn’t disappear within minutes.

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  58. Well so far it’s working for you, you got freshly pressed. With all the hype out there about having a platform to propel your blog further, it can be really discouraging. I’m looking at refining what my own blog is about. The stuff I actually want to write, platform or not.

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    • I had plenty of times when I felt intimidated by all the professional looking blogs, but I always knew that wouldn’t be my thing. I like to keep things simple, and blogging is no exception. I read blogs for the writing only, and I figured there must be other people who feel the same way.

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  59. Totally echoed my thoughts.

    I just (re)started my blog yesterday after a failure 2 years ago. I just want to write. Its fun and I get to express myself just the way I want.

    Great Article. πŸ™‚

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  60. I too am a very serious person. I know that this is my growth edge, and I use my blog to explore my less serious work, my ponderings, my quotes. I use the blog to get me to the page as well as getting used to writing for an audience…i use it in my practice of learning to lighten up and be in the moment. You can break free of the weight of your own expectations! You can do this. One word at a time…

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  61. congratulations on getting “Freshly pressed”. your thoughts mirror mine as if someone just said it aloud something i have been thinking of for days.

    . I started the blog to chronicle my son’s childhood, my motherhood, my general lack of focus and feeling of achievement. I was tired of cribbing and thought of writing which has always been my way to calm down, clear my thoughts and generally feel happy.
    Somewhere in the middle I decided to try to write and achieve 100 post mark. I haven’t been able to do it yet. I know how sometimes I have rambled at times wrote in structured way, even wrote poetry in Hindi (India’s national language) .
    I know exactly what you mean and I am so glad that after ages today I opened wordpress and read your post.
    Hence I too will go back to trying to write for just my own sense of calm, happiness and to feel creative.

    Regards
    Shweta

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    • Perhaps it makes sense that we would naturally alternate that way- life can sometimes be serious and other times not so much. So if we’re writing about our lives, it will reflect that difference.

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  62. I too have been blogging for the past 5 years on WordPress; I feel I am at a crossroads and wasn’t sure I wanted to continue blogging, or at least not in the same way I have been. I have decided that I do want to continue, but yes, writing for myself, which I guess I always have. Thank you for putting into words what so many of us who blog ponder from time to time.

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    • For me it came down to feeling like I wasn’t going to write at all if I had to fret over it, or struggle to come up with a worthy post. I didn’t want to do it any more if it felt like a chore. But that’s the thing- something can be work yet not feel like a chore. That’s what I want blogging to be.

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  63. Writing should come from the heart, no matter what it is that inspires you at any given moment. I recently decided that “It’s my Bloggy and I’ll write what I want to.” Some of the best stuff comes from just allowing yourself the freedom to write and if you’re not having fun, what the heck is the point?

    Congrats on being “Freshly Pressed”!

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    • Thank you. And you’re absolutely right- if it’s not fun, what’s the point? Now I have that song going through my head πŸ˜‰

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  64. I love your post your blogs are great! im a beginner blogger started a couple of weeks ago,i often write but find myself wondering if its good or not ,being careful of what i say or simply just say it without being offensive which is not what i want to do,or maybe i dont want here critisim or just be positive and take the good with the bad and have confidence in myself i guess.i want some good advice maybe?on what would help or what am i doing wrong or right to get better at it and be a good blogger

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    • Thanks! My advice is to just keep writing, and read other blogs. I can’t emphasize this enough- reading other blogs is part of the fun for me. And I don’t understand bloggers who aren’t interested in other blogs… if we want people to find us interesting, we must be willing to find other people interesting as well.
      Really, my advice is to read in general πŸ™‚ There are many times when I choose to read a book instead of writing, because I’m only going to be a decent writer if I read good literature.

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  65. I think that this actually is a good way for wanting-to-be-paid writers to start writing, as well. When you are trying so hard, the hard work of writing well becomes even harder. Coming up with new ideas, forcing plots, research…all very draining, and sometimes the best way to recharge is just to write what you want. So I think this is good even for paid writers.

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    • You’re probably correct. I know a few “real” writers in real life- at least that’s what they say but so far I don’t know if any of them have been published yet, and none of them are making a living at it.
      I could be wrong but I feel like they think that blogging is beneath them, like it’s too amateurish. Just my impression, and as I say I could be wrong. But I’m proud to be a blogger. And if I ever decide to try to get paid, I think my blogging experience can only be a good thing.

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      • I think it would be silly to consider blogging ‘beneath’ a real writer…I mean the only way you can get better at writing is by reading more and writing more, right? And blogging is definitely writing more…plus I’ve been told getting published isn’t nearly as hard as getting read. Blogging is excellent for helping out with that second part.
        Either way, if you made your blog to be about whatever you felt like – I think it’s good you’re deciding to stick to that. A lot of your articles will be more true anyway, probably.

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  66. Focusing on your happiness is smart. If you are having fun with it, your readers will sense that. If you write about a topic they don’t care about that day, so be it. They’ll be back the next day if you’re genuine.

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    • Good point. That’s the thing about writing on a variety of topics- there’s no way every aspect of my life is going to appeal to everyone who might read my blog. And I can’t worry too much about that, or shy away from certain topics for that reason. One thing this is doing is toughening me up a little, which is always helpful. Being overly sensitive is a hard way to live.

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  67. I just came across your blog and i love this post. What you just said o’s what blogging is all about…free writing to express yourself and what you have to say. Who cares what your readers think. Just write what you want it’s what it’s about. You and your blog. Do you girl and nothing else.

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  68. I agree, stay loose. Who knows what topic or adventure might present itself? I wrote a blog post this morning because Alfred Hitchcock looked at me funny from the picture on my refrigerator.

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  69. I like your sentiments. One blogger, whose focus was attracting readers, said that he didn’t want followers who thought like he did because they were likely to leave after a while. So he strove to make his posts controversial to keep his readership up.

    He may have a point but I quite like to speak in my blogs to people who can relate to what I’m saying, and if all I concerned myself with was keeping followers and writing posts to ensure that they stayed, then I’d probably end up sounding like somebody else.

    Congratulations and I’ll put you on my list.

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    • Thank you for reading and commenting. I’m not a big fan of controversial bloggers, and I’d hate to feel like I had to stir the pot all the time to attract attention. I’ve had my share of conflict in real life- I have strong opinions and homeschoolers in general are an opinionated bunch. But as I get older I’ve been consciously working on avoiding conflict, letting go of things that don’t matter. I’ve wanted my blog to be a fairly peaceful place, just because I think the world needs more peace, not more arguing over who is right.

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  70. I totally know what your talking about! I feel the same way. Like my whole blog needs a theme and a purpose but actually sometimes I think it should be a reflection of me! And I’m pretty much as random and random gets so I think I’m just going to stick to blogging about what I want to rather than defining content with a strategy! That’s my day job! This is my hobby 😊. Love that I’m not the only one that feels that way! X

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    • It’s so nice to hear so many voices echoing what I’m saying. I love the idea of more people just writing simply about their lives, no agenda, no marketing.

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  71. My favourite posts are the ones where I don’t think too much, and just write. But, I am somewhat of an over-analyser, too. I am an article writer, and use my blogs for pleasure – if it gets to be too much like work for me, it is no longer fun! Enjoy letting your hair down and writing whatever comes naturally – it is your blog, after all; we are just the interlopers!

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    • I’m happy to hear from some people who write for pay- I feel like you’re validating my point about pleasure writing vs. serious writing. I was veering too much into the serious territory, but with no hope or intention of getting paid for it! It just felt like too much work for a blog post read by a couple of people.

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  72. I thought this was a great post on the subject of blog writing – its intentions and its purpose. I appreciate the fact that you have a blog that is “all over.” Guess what, I have one too. I’ve written books, I get paid to write, and I also write for myself and for my followers occasionally. You are absolutely right when you said that writing for pay is different and a lot more complex. It is also a constraint on what you write for fun, because potential clients eventually get to read that stuff also. That’s why I leave my true and unabashed writing for my private, Facebook page.

    However, when you are writing on a daily basis on a personal (but public) blog, and do not have those constraints, there are no rules to follow. You are the publisher, editor, and your blog is your newspaper. Do whatever you like and do not worry about offending other people. If they do not like what you write, they can simply go elsewhere..

    Every new day brings new meaning, new moods, and different outlooks on life. People should not expect your writing to adhere to a preconceived style of writing. Eventually, your “voice” will take on an identity of its own which will be unique and easily identifiable.

    Be yourself, and have fun. This is your home, no one elses!

    Good job!

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    • Thank you for reading and commenting. As I’ve said, I appreciate the feedback from people who also write for pay. It’s interesting to thing about the difference- and also to think about the ways it may constrain you to be a “real writer”.
      Funny about facebook- I actually feel more free to be myself on my blog than I do on my facebook page. I think it’s because I feel like my fellow bloggers “get me” more than my real life friends, at least this aspect of myself. It’s one of the things I love about blogging.

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  73. I write for the same reason I jam and draw, because I live it for its own sake! We write what we want, and we do it for us! I like your concept about your bling reflecting your Zen as well. Living and writing in the precious present moment!

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    • I am all about living in the moment. It is actually something I write about a lot, being present in my life and not letting the time just pass me by.

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  74. I stumbled across your blog while looking at the freshly pressed. This was exactly what I needed. I am a new blogger and I honestly started because no one my age is really interested in blogs, so I have a safe place to vent and write about things. Well I started getting followers and struggled with my blogging because what I wrote wasn’t just being seen by me anymore.. All I can say is be true to who you are and write about what you want.

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  75. I love this. It’s something I have struggled with a lot recently. I finally decided to post an opinion piece and I am struggling a bit to decide how to deal with people who openly disagree in comments or messages. I guess I just have to not care! Also, I post about my personal life along with essays/articles. I think people like seeing both. They will both seem like your voice because it is!

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    • Thank you. I try to find the right balance between not being too controversial but still being honest. I know that I’m very sensitive- it was my biggest fear when I started blogging, that people would be mean and I couldn’t handle it. So far I’ve never had a nasty comment, but I guess I try to avoid too much controversy so that I don’t have to deal with negativity.
      But again, that’s something we each have to decide. If you can do it and not care about the comments, then good for you! I wish I was tougher that way.

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  76. I haven’t been on WordPress for years. At first I was really into it but didn’t care if anyone read it or liked it.

    My writing muse seems to have departed, but my art museum is all over me.

    Loved your post and admire your discipline.

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    • Thanks! I am disciplined when I want to be. My motto is “never give up”, until of course giving up feels like the best option. I only have a writing muse… it’s the only spark of creativity I’ve got πŸ™‚

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  77. Thank you for this post – you’ve summed up some of my misgivings with whether I want to blog or not. Do I really have anything new to say? It’s good to know that others have the same feeling,

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    • If we follow that logic (there is nothing new to say), than all art would be pointless. Of course we’re all derivative, but there is always something new to say. But perhaps the challenge is saying something unique to us, rather than repeating things which have already been said.

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  78. I got over worrying about what people think when I revealed my family’s secret shame in my book Before the Door Closes: A Daughter’s Journey with Her Alcoholic Father. In order to make more people aware of both alcohol abuse and elder abuse (the two issues in my book), I began blogging in February.

    Since there are so many hurting people, I decided to focus on serious issues and not to clutter it with ads, etc. And I want to keep my posts relatively short so that the reader can pop in , receive a thinking thought, and leave it a better person.

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    • Yes, I imagine that publishing your book helped you get over worrying what people might think! Good for you for making a difference in the world.

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  79. I think I have too much to say to focus on one niche-some days I find one post ends up miles from where it started or where I meant for it to go. You summed up how so many (including myself) feel beautifully. Thank you.

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    • I am, but I also don’t want to blog in a vacuum. As I’ve said, interacting with others is part of the fun for me. So I will always be mindful of any readers, just going to try not to let it be an inhibiting thing.

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  80. I just started a new blog and I hope it is something people will enjoy reading, but I understand wondering why we write, how to balance free time, what to say that hasn’t been said. And I am totally guilty of being too serious. Hope you start enjoying having a lighter tone.

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  81. I just started a new blog and I hope it is something people will enjoy reading, but I understand wondering why we write, how to balance free time, what to say that hasn’t been said. And I am totally guilty of being too serious. Hope you start enjoying having a lighter tone.

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  82. I’ve been blogging the way I wanted since 2006. It was my facebook’s ‘What’s on your mind?’, but on a longer and more ‘my space in the internet’ kind of way. I never cared if my whole class was going to read it, or just one stranger across the globe. I just wanted an outlet for all those thoughts that were flooding my mind.

    I always felt inferior though, because it was the time when specialty blogs, as I like to call them, kept popping anywhere I went. I liked them, they had a purpose, but my blogging self felt insecure, what is my blog all about? I’ve just been ranting on my blog, like a girl’s diary. I eventually brushed the feeling off as just a phase. I continued with writing with what I want to say, how I want to say them.

    I deleted my blog, because I was getting lost. Starting a new one, I think I’m still going to write what I want to write, with or without purpose. Good luck on your breaking free experiment πŸ™‚

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    • Thanks. I think that I had this vague idea of what blogs were, and then when I finally decided to start one I had no intention of it being anything more than a simple online journal. By the time I got serious about it, in the sense of seeking out other blogs and finding readers beyond my own friends and family, I realized that blogs were definitely not simple any more. They were professionally designed, slick and everyone seemed to have an angle.
      Not everyone, of course. I’ve managed to find a few blogs that I like, that keep it simple and aren’t trying to sell me anything. But it is tough to stick it out and stay true to my original vision of having an online journal. I’ve had to let go of a lot of insecurities, which is of course a good thing.

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  83. Perfectly timed post for me I am new to blogging and find myself questioning why I started and why I keep writing .The fun of sharing becomes the chore of telling .I am going to follow your lead and write to express myself .Thank you

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  84. I just started blogging, and I feel like I don’t have a purpose either. It seems that everyone in the blogging world is talking about branding and content with ‘value.’ I am glad that there are sincere people like yourself that uses blogging to serve yourself.

    For me, I want my blog to be about breaking out of my shell. almacampos.com

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    • Your blog looks great! Writing and putting it out there has been a huge growth experience for me. I find that other bloggers appreciate writing in a way that people I know in real life don’t. That’s been an unexpected bonus for me, having a chance to chat (virtually) with people who look at the world in a similar way, people who enjoy processing their thoughts in writing.

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    • I already think (and write) a lot about balance, but now I’m going to work on the freedom aspect more. I’m tucking that word away in the back of my mind and I’ll pull it out when I start worrying about what to write.

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  85. Great post! I feel the same way. I pretty much just post what I, personally, feel like writing at whatever given time. No purpose to it, really. I am too busy to devote hours to becoming some fabulous blogger. I just do it for fun, for myself, out of boredom, to be silly, and random, and share what I love, or think about whatever subject strikes me in the brain to write about, so, consequently, my posts are all over the place. I am not a serious writer. I like to write, but I don’t necessarily aspire to become a writer of any distinction. I have other creative pursuits, which keep me very busy, so it is just another distraction for me….another creative outlet of sorts. And, a way to amuse myself, I suppose, since I, myself, like to read (and watch/listen to) what I post. I love to use a lot of vids, so sometimes the words are just a blurb or two. It is my unique visual journal. If people like it, or relate, that is great. If not, I don’t lose sleep over it….

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  86. Compose pieces on the topics you would like to write about. Don’t worry about niche writing. You will have a more successful blogging and writing experience when you are writing about what you elect to write about and about things that come natural.

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  87. This post alone is prime example of your calling-for-blogging. The way you speak to.your reader instead of us jus reading your post is admirable. You appeal to your audience while still being true to you!

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  88. Yes, this all sounds familiar! I’m quite new to blogging and initially started because I wanted to put my creative writing ‘out there’. If anyone wants some starters/triggers for writng poetry have a look at my 10 Tips for Writing Poetry!

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  89. I am so pleased to have read this. I started my first blog today because I love writing and I wanted a way of writing for other people. When I published it online I thought to myself – people are actually going to read this! All these questions that you’ve mentioned are just what I thought! I’m pleased I’m not the only one and you’re right, just write for yourself; people will enjoy it much much more I’m sure!

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    • Some blogs seem to have a lot of readers quite quickly, but I don’t know how they do that. For me, I built up followers very, very slowly. I was always pretty determined I wasn’t going to imitate other blogs or try to figure out some magic formula for attracting readers. Anyway, i think it was a good thing because I got used to writing even when it seemed like no one was reading, and also I had plenty of time to become more comfortable with blogging.

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      • This is so good to hear! It’s fun knowing people are reading your work, but I think like yours my readers aren’t going to appear very fast this was my first ever public piece of writing since my essay writing days! Your blog puts out there what most people are probably thinking! I’ll definitely be reading your posts Miriam they fill me with confidence πŸ™‚

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  90. Reblogged this on L. V. Lewis and commented:
    Even as a writer of fiction, I struggle with writing what I want to write. Maybe soon I’ll be able to ignore the voices all around me and write exactly what I want to write.

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    • Interesting- I hadn’t ever thought about this. I hope you find the freedom to write exactly what you want to write. Unless of course you’re being offered a lot of money to write something specific… I can see that being kind of tempting πŸ˜‰

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  91. Free thinking, free writing and no constraints will set you FREE. I agree with your sentiments 100%. If I am satisfied with what I have written I am happy. If others enjoy reading it and gain something I am ecstatic. Maybe Ill see you on the same road sometime! James

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  92. I am completely with you on this Miriam. I have also seen many blogs come and go and been on the edge of quitting myself once or twice, but I’m still here and like you I am now consciously writing what I want to write…

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    • I knew that I didn’t really want to quit, although I’ve done it a few times I quickly miss it and come back. I figured I’d explore my options rather than just giving up. The truth is, I don’t have any big novel waiting to be written, and the idea of writing for pay doesn’t appeal to me that much- it seems like a lot of work and I already have a rich, full life. If I don’t blog, I may not write much at all.

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  93. Hi, I came across your post at just the right time! I’ve had my blog for a couple of years. At first I was very uncertain about the whole thing. I put up a couple of pictures, just to see how it all worked and then shied away from doing anything else for ages. Over the last year or so I started to post more often, albeit tentatively. Now in 2014 I’ve promised myself that I’ll post more often, more regularly. I’ve been mostly posting about travel.It is something I really enjoy; travel and writing about it. But as I’ve figured out how the whole blogging thing works and as I’ve started to find the beginnings of a community in this incredibly diverse thing that’s the blogosphere I’ve realised there’s other stuff I want to write about as well. I added another catch-all category: Odd ‘n Sods – and already I can see that’ll probably be the most frequently used. So, I’ve been wondering, do I start another blog? Not very keen on that idea, there are only so many hours in the day! After reading your blog, I’m just going to let it all evolve. Thank-you!

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    • “Let it all evolve…” that’s a good way to think about it. It’s a work in progress, just like our lives. I don’t think consistency matters as much as we think it does, because my experience has been that my readers have come and gone too. Not necessarily because they don’t like my blog any more (although that may be the case sometimes) but because bloggers stop writing and perhaps they stop reading too. The community changes, and I’m okay with that.

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  94. I feel the exact same way about blogging. I love to share through writing, but then I feel may be I am not doing enough.. I lose focus a lot of times too. 😦

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    • I don’t know what your life is like, but I know that the last thing I need is to put more pressure on myself. I’m consciously avoiding that “I’m not doing enough” feeling because it’s not a good way to live. But it’s very hard to avoid comparison when we look at other blogs, and I suppose that is one of the issues I’m working through here.

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      • Absolutely! I feel the same way. I tell myself that I dont need a post to be a certain length, I dont need to post every dsy, because I find blogging to be a sort of catharsis. I post what I feel. It isnt necessarily about a certain topic… I feel it gives me more freedom to let the writer inside me out. Also, my posts are more flowy because that’s my actual feelings on the post.

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  95. You sound “real” here… I would keep it that way. Totally agree… My writing is for me… First and foremost… And like you, all over the place. But that’s ok… Keep it up!

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  96. Just found your blog, and appreciated the “I’m just going to write because I feel like writing post.” Then I read on and found something else in common: we are also unschoolers, with the help of Princeton Learning Cooperative. Just like your kids are learning what they want to learn you’ll be writing what you want to write!

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  97. i could have written this! Thank you for expressing what I’ve thought for so long….and why my fingers hover over the keys many times, thinking “i can’t write that!!” Ugh. I’ll push myself a little more if you do too. πŸ™‚
    p.s. Any girl who uses “ennui” is a friend of mine! nice to meet you!!

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    • Oh, the thoughts I haven’t been willing to put into words. If I really let myself go, I don’t think I’ll have any trouble finding something to say. I love the word ennui. It’s one of those words that really sounds like its meaning. Nice to meet you too πŸ™‚

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  98. Your transparency and being authentic in this post just earned you a for sure reader. This is the type of stuff I WANT to read. It’s people like you I want to connect with – in writing, in life. This was a great post. Write-on sista! I’ll be reading! :0)

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    • Thank you! And you’re so right- it’s not only about writing, but everything. It’s what we want out of all of our relationships.

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  99. It can take time to find a purpose. Not all blogs are designed with the intention of gaining tons if traffic and generating income. As you can see from the comments you’ve received, you may not know your purpose, but others do.

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  100. Now, I can exhale. Thanks, Miriam. You gave me a new freedom about this blogging. Now, I’ve heard of blogging before I stared, but no one explained it to me. I feared asking and looking dumb on the subject, when blogging was referred. That was when I took a writing course in 20012. Finally, I started blogging . . . maybe . . . well, 6 weeks after the course ended. Although, I felt my way around and put pieces together, the puzzle was incomplete until I read your blog just now. I Know I’m not alone now, after you expressed the things I’ve felt. You are a brave and no nonsense woman. I needed to hear that. I wish you more and long peace of mind.

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  101. Free Writing, Intuitive writing is the best when you Feel for Your Self to do so. It’s then obviously a Soul Urge as well. It’s funny to read that there are more people like me as well with the same struggling subjects. I Love writing as well but most of the time it hold me back of, indeed, not having the ‘right’ subjects to write about. I decided as well to just write what comes up in my mind or what I feel writing about and it’s much better now, it feels better, more Free :-). I have two blogs, one for my Coaching and one more Spiritual based, but I write on both with the same intention ;-). And it works great! Keep up the good job! And Thank you for sharing this, it helps a lot to know that there are more of Us out there ;-). Namaste, Angelique, http://www.angeliquemol.com and http://www.spirituition.net.

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  102. I’m new to wordpress but already I’ve been indecisive on if I want to write about certain topics or just do free-writing. I swear I’ve created drafts that have not been posted because of this indecisiveness. I thank you for sharing the post! Cheers

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    • I love your blog title! It seems like the advice I’m hearing from everyone is that it’s okay to do both, and let people read (or not) if they want to.

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      • Thank you! I took your advice and just went for it today on my newest post. I think overall, the writing is a good therapy for me and I will no longer stress over what to write because this is my expressive outlet.

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    • Worry is such a waste of time. That’s one of the things I’m trying to weed out of my life, not just about writing but about everything.

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  103. Congrats! Firstly, on finally deciding to write without reservations. Secondly, on being Freshly Pressed! When I started blogging I knew that I would write from my heart, because the more I do, the more sincere and truthful (as far as my travel experiences are concerned) my stories became. I may not have many followers, but writing what I want to write has provided me with great opportunities like getting published on a mainstream online news organization in the Philippines. Because of my blog, I have met people that can not only help me expand my network, but also get the writing projects that I really want. May you continue writing and taking risks because that’s how your blog can standout from the rest. As Neil Gaiman puts it your ideas are your gifts to the world. ^^

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  104. Reblogged this on Personal Idea and commented:
    Writers could somehow make a living, through writing series of article, and eventually selling their product to customers.
    But, a personal interest to writing, and publishing, is to write instinctually, or without bias, and liking to show your hands, as well.
    When the aspiration sets in, to motivate, and increase what you do, things will start to change.
    I belief, the personal manifestation of habit, and influence, should continue as a life-career.
    Thank you.

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  105. I loved this, you’ve captured every thought and feeling I have for myself as well, and put it into word. I have Zero real purpose except for just to get it all out, whether it makes sense to people or not. And what you’ve written here, is a great example of that. “Just break free from the weight of your own expectations.” Love that. Your blog is perfect πŸ™‚

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  106. I thought I had purpose when I started mine, but it was crammed down my throat by my old publisher…now, I post when and what I want and it’s for me. If other’s like it, well, that’s cool. I like to feature flash fiction, poetry, feel-good stories or provide people with tid-bits of life stuff I find useful. LOVE your blog post today.

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    • Thank you for reading and commenting. It’s interesting to think about our reasons for doing something- is it really for ourselves or is it to please others?

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  107. Wow, this really resonated with me, even though we are at completely different stages in life (you began blogging during motherhood, I began after finishing high school). But I’m struggling with this concept too. Obviously it’s great to have readers but then I worry about boring them with my trivial life details… but the reason I began blogging in the first place was for myself anyway?? Just to have an outlet for anything I want to write about. So I think you’re right, you just have to take the pressure off yourself, worry less about pleasing people, and write what you want to! Thanks for putting into words what a lot of us are feeling! πŸ™‚

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    • You’re very welcome. I have to believe that writing about our daily lives is valuable and worth doing. And that yes, people may find it interesting. Good luck with your blog!

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  108. I’m going through the exact same thing, but if you feel like writing then write about anything you want, filter it out later. Don’t worry about anyone else! It’s therapeutic, don’t lose that instinct. I should now take my own advice!

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    • Yes, I try to remember that I can just write and then decide if I want to post or not. Sometimes I do that, but I find that most of the time I like what I write well enough to go ahead and post it. It’s like I’m restless until I’ve written, then once I’m done I feel satisfied for the next day or two.

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  109. Wow…. i can clearly identify with the dilemma to provide info or not . I like your writing style . You’ve earned a follower πŸ™‚

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  110. I write music and encounter exactly the same struggle. What do I want to say? How should I say it? Does what I say even matter? I try and tell myself that if just one person can get a fraction of the joy I get from other people’s music from my stuff then it’s worthwhile. Hell, I enjoy it! Keep writing, you’d be surprised how stuff you think is ordinary is insightful and intriguing to someone else. x

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    • By that standard, my blogging has already been a success. I’ve had people tell me that my words were meaningful to them (both real life friends and online readers). I think that it is very difficult though for us to choose quality over quantity. I know what is important, but it’s hard not to compare myself to other people and feel like my successes aren’t enough, that I should try harder or want more. Why do we do this?!

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  111. […] letting down my guard and writing what i want toΒ writeΒ by ‘A Simple Life’ – blog writing can often be a struggle between writing for an audience and writing for yourself, especially if your blog is tailored to a specific theme (i.e. travel, parenting, fitness, etc). The author of this article muses over what a lot of us bloggers are thinking – they hit the spot and that’s exactly why it became featured on freshly pressed! Well done you! […]

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  112. I can connect with the feeling of being an old soul and aging as a way of “coming into myself”. Thanks for sharing! It made me realise I had been putting too many expectations on myself too.

    Write what you feel!

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    • Glad you can relate! I feel like at this point I’m ready to start heading in the other direction… feeling “younger” as I age πŸ˜‰

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  113. Thank you for writing this! I have written so many drafts that I don’t want to publish because of that self-consciousness. I am afraid of being boring. But the blog is something that brings me pleasure and I do as a hobby!

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    • Ah, the boring thing. I worry about that too. I think that if people are simply looking to be entertained, then certain blogs will be boring to them. There are some pretty snazzy blogs out there, with some writers that put a lot of effort into being funny/sarcastic/entertaining. Nothing wrong with that, if that’s what makes people happy.
      But you know what? I don’t read those blogs, it’s just not what i’m looking for. And I think if I’m looking for more serious content (which may run the risk of being boring) then others must be as well.
      I will say, I publish most of what I write. I only have a handful of drafts over the last several years. I figure that if I’m going to sit and write I might as well go ahead and publish it, and not worry too much about it. Blogs move quickly, no one will remember (including myself) a post from a few days ago. As long as there’s nothing hugely embarrassing, who cares?

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      • Thank you for replying back! Yeah that’s true, serious content has the risk of being boring, but that is why we have over the top characters, movies, and news because of the fear of boredom and not getting enough viewers.

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  114. Thank you so much for writing this! I recently decided to start my own blog and everybody started to ask me what my main topic is going to be. I was so frustrated because I honestly have no topic. I just wanted to write for myself and about the crazy thoughts that go trough my head. It would be my own personal journal for the world to read. Your blog makes me feel a lot better about not having any specific topic to write about. I’m not much of a writer and i am far from creative writing but I have so many thoughts in my head that just need to get out and I feel that blogging is the best way to relieve me of some of those thoughts. Again thank you for your post and always be true to yourself!

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    • Well this comment is well written, so don’t be too quick to say you’re not much of a writer. Don’t feel like you need a topic. It will limit you anyway, unless you really have one thing that you could write about over and over again. I don’t have one passion like that!
      Also, I found that friends and family did not end up being my best blog readers. That surprised me, but truly other bloggers have been far more instrumental in keeping me going πŸ™‚ So if you want readers you have to get out there and find blogs, read them and comment, etc. It’s work but it’s also fun!

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      • Thank you so much for your advice. It means a lot to me. Also, I have finally posted my first blog today and if you get the chance I would love if you read it:)

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  115. Everyone is so different from each other. We all live different lives and have different thoughts.Thats good that you have a blog to write and share your everyday thoughts with people who can realate.

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    • Good point to remember. And that means that there is no way to write blog posts that everyone will like, even people that like our writing and some of what we have to say!

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  116. I realized I was losing my “voice” when I started a blog for the series of posts I’d been putting on Facebook. Once I wasn’t writing to just my friends, I started writing these bland posts that didn’t sound like me.

    Now, when I write, I pretend I’m talking to a particular friend of mine. She brings out my voice. πŸ™‚

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    • I was thinking about facebook too- how quickly I’ll dash off something there, and not fuss with it at all. I actually prefer my blog to facebook, but I’d like to have a little more of that carefree spirit in my blogging…

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  117. Hi Miriam,

    “The truth is, I’m all over the place. I don’t want a niche blog, I don’t want to be limited in what I can write about. If I’m not trying to get paid for my efforts, then I should feel free to do exactly what I want.
    That’s the beauty of it.”

    I love love these words, you put my nagging thoughts on blogging to clear beauty. Thank YOU!

    Blessings,
    Wati

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  118. Motherhood is a great way to get down off the pedestal and play in the dirt sometimes. I think about Annie Lamont and how she told the straight story, warts and all. I can’t read her anymore, but for awhile, we connected. People will pass in and out of your blog as they feel the need. You will be fine. Keep writing.

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    • Yes, good point. Kind of like life itself, friendships… we are close to others at certain points and sometimes drift apart as our circumstances change.

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  119. I’ve only been blogging since December, and so far, I think only my parents read it. If I’m lucky. But I already have that weird internal pressure like I should be producing essays every post, and if not, then it’s not worthy to be posted. And for who? I’m the only reader. Thanks for bringing me back to reality before I really screw it up before it’s even had a chance.

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    • You summed up my feelings perfectly! And once I fully realized the internal pressure I was feeling, I knew I either had to change or stop blogging. No need to feel that kind of pressure over an unpaid hobby πŸ™‚ Good luck with your blog!

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  120. this is the perfect article for me to read at the moment. I got stuck in my blog now, having more drafts than the posts. I have many ideas, but I’m afraid people don’t like what I write, and then I stop writing that article. 😦 Now I will finish what I started. Now I will write for me. Thank you.

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    • You’re very welcome. As I’ve said before, I publish most of what I write, and that’s the way I want it to be. If I were a “real” writer, I would expect to do many revisions. For a blog, that seems like a waste of time.

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  121. I don’t want to sound like a cliche and say you read and wrote my mind, but you really did. I battle with conflicting emotions and thoughts every day of my life and from a very young age, I started writing to release some pent up energy. I started my blog as a journal and it quickly became a place for all my random thoughts. Now, I feel like I should take more time in my writing. I feel like a student writing for a teacher’s approval. I haven’t reached a final decision like you have, but I will soon.
    I really enjoyed your post.

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  122. […] It started with a teapot and happiness, but it was turning into a wild goose chase for likes and follows. It started with me expressing myself and writing about my journey, but now I was out to write what I thought might get attention. I felt like Nintendo when they abandoned the goodness of the N64 and the Gamecube and came out with the Wii and DS games like Brain Age. I wasn’t true to me, I was looking for a wider audience no matter who it was or what they wanted. Apparently, this is not an uncommon phenomenon. […]

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  123. Your experience is the substantial truth and I think when you let go and just write freely is where you have the best work. I love your honesty! πŸ™‚

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  124. Great post! I’m at a somewhat similar stage in my blogging career! Followers are great, and very welcome, but ultimately I started a blog because I love to write and I want to express my feelings in a way that feels natural to me. I worry I should have a theme or a focus, but I’m not necessarily trying to reach out to anyone. If someone stumbles across something I have written and can identify with it, then that’s wonderful. But otherwise, it’s a hobby, a release and my favourite kind of therapy!

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    • It sounds like we write for similar reasons. It seems that “readers” are both a blessing and a curse, so we have to figure out how to just keep saying what we want to say and not care what people think.

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  125. I think that a lot of us struggle with exactly what you are describing. To write a good, well crafted post, without a lot of typos, and one that is halfway meaningful to anyone outside of our immediate families takes time – lots of time. I have asked myself whether or not the return is worth it, and what my motivations are. But unless you are really trying to make money as a blogger (not the easiest thing in the world to do), I think that forgetting about readership is important. So for me, blogging is a lot like gambling…when it ceases to be fun, it’s time to do something else.

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    • So true, and I appreciate hearing from someone else who admits how much time it takes to write a decent blog post. I don’t mind spending time on writing, but I have to make sure I balance it properly with everything else going on in my life. And like you say, questioning my motivations. So important.

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  126. This is exactly how I feel. I’ve just begun a blog and as I think about beginning a new post, I always feel that there has to be a purpose, or something more rewarding than just posting my thoughts on a public forum. I think you have made the right decision and I admire you for it – I hope to do the same! Here’s to writing for ourselves and being happy doing it.

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    • “Here’s to writing for ourselves and being happy doing it.”

      You just gave me a new blog title! Thank you so much πŸ™‚ I’ve had so much time to think about this since reading and replying to all these comments, and what you said just summed it all up for me. That’s what this is all about.

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  127. Well said. Funny but I think many of us search for the “purpose” of our writing . For myself, it allows me to share experiences I have carried. I sincerely want to “do no harm” but, be truthful. Writing has allowed me to hone my writing AND organize my opinions much clearer as I write them down. Peace

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    • I’m glad that you’ve found a way to share your experiences- it seems that you’ve had a lot more pain than anyone should. Writing can be very cathartic, and that is a good thing.

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  128. I started my blog yesterday with the same thought as to writing whatever I want because it’s essentially for me. Hopefully I stay with that concept. Good luck with your writing! I think this was a great reminder that we shouldn’t lose ourselves.

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    • And there are so many ways to lose ourselves, to forget what is important in the need for approval from other people. Writing a blog is just one way…
      I’ve realized how much I enjoy just reading the thoughts of others, and how quickly I’m turned off by writing that seems to be trying too hard, topics that feel forced.

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  129. Beautiful! I, too, am all over the place. I’m willing to bet that many people are, and find your voice refreshing. I can relate to every sentence here! Thanks for a lovely heartfelt post!

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  130. Reblogged this on The MadHatter's Corner and commented:
    Wow! Absolutely inspirational! If we all followed your example we would be in a much better place! This is something that can be applied not just to blogging but to life itself! I am still in the experimental stage and haven’t yet found my comfort zone but I am working on it slow but steady!

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  131. Does anyone else struggle with the internal battle of using a blog as therapy/writing from the heart vs. censoring yourself? Maybe it’s just me but I used to have a journal that some people got into. It was 100% honest since it was for my eyes only. Once someone was able to peer into my innermost thoughts, I promised myself to never allow someone to get inside my head again. To be careful how unfiltered my written thoughts were.

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    • I do struggle with it. And I censor myself all the time. I know that my online blog is not the same as a private journal. Sometimes I dream of starting an anonymous blog, but I don’t know if I’ll do it… I don’t think I could hide something like that.
      But I still feel like I can write honestly without putting it all out there. Knowing that strangers can read it is going to make me naturally cautious. I just write about things that I don’t mind people reading, you know? And it works, for the most part. I don’t think it has to be either/or, there can be a middle ground.

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  132. I agree. I must publish the draft-posts that have been sitting in my section with no doubts but I know it’s hard. You always want to be publish something educational & inspirational than the mundane life.

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    • That’s one of the things I’m seeing as important to not over-thinking this whole blogging thing- if I write something, why not publish it? Unless there is a valid reason like it’s going to be hurtful to someone, etc. If I’m just afraid that it’s not “good enough”, who cares? I mean that– who cares? What is the worst that can happen- someone might not want to read it? Why is that worth worrying about?

      So I say, just publish the posts πŸ™‚

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  133. I appreciate your self-reflection here; it finds a good balance, being kind to yourself, yet wanting more. For years I have thought of writing as a way to find out what I am thinking. Looks like you are working on that, too.

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    • It’s an ongoing process… but writing absolutely helps figure myself out. And I hope that in the process of understanding myself better, I can have better relationships with other people.

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  134. I loved your post! I find myself in the same conundrum at times. I want to make a difference with my words, but I love writing just to get out all these thoughts and questions I have. I have come to realize if I stay true to who I am, I can make a difference AND feel good about what I post. There is always at least one person who gains from your voice, even if it’s only you. Good luck with your new focus!

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    • It is so true about just having one person who appreciates our words. I think most of us blogging have at least that- I know for me I had several, even when I felt like “no one” was reading my blog. And I want to stay true to that idea of quality over quantity. If we are truly able to connect with a few people in this world, that is an amazing thing. So